A lot can change in a short amount of time. Stephanie Boettcher was a perfect example of this; as I look back on my best friends life and the struggles she’s overcome, I knew I wanted to share her story.
Stephanie Boettcher grew up in Lindstrom, MN. Stephanie was the younger of two girls and lived with her parents in a suburban neighborhood. Stephanie was always very close with her father, more than any other member of her family Her sister was away at school in North Dakota and it always seemed as though her mother was to busy with work to focus on much else.
After graduating high school with honors, she started to notice a void growing between her parents. At first it didn’t seem to bother her that much but months went by and her parents feud continued to cause the family to drift apart. This is when Stephanie decided she needed to get away for a while and live her own life; so she packed up her belongings and moved to California to further her education as an interior designer.
The first quarter in California seemed to be just what Stephanie needed, she was making friends, having fun, and most of all staying out of the family drama. A few weeks later Stephanie received a phone call from her dad, the beginning of the conversation was much like it usually was; he asked her how she was doing and if she was enjoying her time in the warm weather. Even though the conversation seemed normal, Steph could tell something was wrong; after a few minutes her dad finally told her what was going on. He went on to describe that he and her mother’s relationship was over, and he would soon be moving out.
The next few weeks were somewhat of a blur for her; she spent most of her time alone in her apartment. Her roommates couldn’t stand to see her so upset all the time, so they finally were able to convince her to go out and try to have a little fun. Her innocent fun quickly turned to dangerous lifestyle. Soon Stephanie was going out every night and drinking until she was blatantly intoxicated. She soon realized that alcohol was no longer filling the void so she looked for another way to cover up her pain. Even though she was never into drugs, marijuana was common among her new friends, and soon became her newest crutch. Steph was smoking and drinking almost everyday. Her schoolwork began to become last on her priority list and her grades were a direct correlation of this. Because Steph was failing most of her classes, the school took matters into their own hands. Steph would soon be kicked out of her student apartment and have nowhere to go. She turned to her parents for money, but when they refused to send more funds for housing, Steph was forced to move back to Minnesota.
Being back home in Minnesota was a big change from the past year in California; she went from her fast paced life to feeling trapped in her mother’s house with no one to turn to and nothing to do. Stephanie’s best friends from home new this behavior was completely out of the ordinary for her. They knew she needed their help to pull her out of this funk. A few days later Steph agreed to go to a bonfire with her friends where she happened to be introduced to someone who would have a much greater impact on her life than she would have ever expected.
Tim was a fun loving guy who had quite the past of his own, something steph felt she could relate too. When they first started talking she felt Tim had a strange understanding of her something she hadn’t had in quite sometime and having that was very refreshing. Soon they became close friends, Tim took Stephanie on hikes through the woods, (which was something she loved to do, but had lost interest until this) helping her to look at things in a new light. Tim however had always been very into nature and the natural ways of life. Stephanie was intrigued to this way of life, but soon because very interested in it. Tim was beginning to open steph up to a whole new way of life.
Sometimes I wonder what would have happened to Stephanie Boettcher if Tim wouldn’t of been there, I know he feels he didn’t really have much to do with this success story but he was her guardian angel to the rest of us. Stephanie was in a tough situation where wrong decisions were made, which I’m sure most people could relate too. Never give up on the people you care about no matter how difficult it may be, in the end it might save their life.
